The past is never dead. It’s not even past.
— Wm Faulkner
We are all influenced by memories and experiences we may not remember or fully understand. These live in the mind as emotional tangles or knots of emotion, thought, and behavior: areas of ‘non-experienced experience’ in the psyche which encode unhappy, negative events from the past. These tangles become the basis of self-fulfilling prophesies: long-standing repeated patterns of upsets and problems in which our emotional history repeats itself.
Emotional tangles become ingrained in our lives and show up in the recurring experiences of reactions, upsets, and problems. We need to identify these patterns and begin to see how these reflect and express unhappy, negative views of ourselves that we have taken in from others. Bringing awareness to the experience of being upset is the first step. As we change what is inside, the outside can also change.