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Finding The Opportunities In Problems

The Willingness To Be Changed By Change

Because no two individuals are alike, there is no “one size fits all” method or strategy for effective psychotherapy.  My approach to psychotherapy is very individual and relational, exploring clients’ strengths and weaknesses in the light of early experiences which have shaped them.

Life challenges all of us with the necessity to grow and change.  Regardless of the particular symptoms or diagnosis, for most people the major problems comes down to an inability to face negative emotion and embrace change.  The only way to truly release the hold of such feelings is the bring them to the surface where they can be explored, deeply felt, and released.  This happens best in the milieu of a trusted therapeutic relationship.

My strength as a therapist is my ability to listen and understand from an empathic perspective and to provide the perspective, insight, and guidance to help you see how you are getting in your own way. 

On the other side of fear, shame, and confusion, it becomes possible to make more effective choices.

 

 

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Intimacy With Self

The Journey of Self-Discovery

It is only when we can be sufficiently intimate with ourselves that we can be comfortable with others. Self-intimacy means feeling connected to all parts of ourselves and the full range of our experiences – especially those parts that we may dislike or that make us feel uncomfortable, ashamed, or vulnerable. This means having the courage to embrace whatever we find, including painful judgments we hold about ourselves or others.

The path of self-discovery unfolds as we travel upon it. In psychotherapy, the core of this inquiry is self-reflection: looking deep within. Often we can only really see ourselves in the mirror provided by another. The framework of the psychotherapeutic relationship enables you to see yourself more clearly.

Benefits of Psychotherapy:

  • Get to the heart of the patterns that are causing you difficulties.
  • Learn how to weather emotional storms.
  • Find a path through life transitions, grief, or loss.
  • Learn to take responsibility without blaming
  • Set clear boundaries and express your needs.
  • Create more rewarding relationships.
  • Gain clarity about what compromises you can and cannot make.

Thinking Outside The Box  

Learn To Feel Into Experience

It’s a common predicament, especially among highly intelligent people: the effort to figure everything out.

Individuals who have lived by their brains tend to automatically assume that all problems can be solved by thinking and doing.

This strategy doesn’t work well with emotional problems. To the contrary, when you think too much, worry and rumination can make matters worse.

The opportunity in this situation is to learn to feel into experience instead of struggling against it. This is the beginning of greater wisdom, self-acceptance, and self-compassion.

With this new perspective, it is possible to dissolve the barriers which stand in way of deeper love and intimacy between you.

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